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Creating boundaries with friends and family

In life we learn that in order to feel comfortable and content in our surroundings we have to create boundaries. It may be in the workplace, in public, or even dating. We create standards in our lives to up our value and keep our worth.

Despite that it can be hard when it comes to our friends and family. We can find it difficult to create boundaries or can even be blind in the process of them stepping over our boundaries because of the status they hold in our lives.

Communicate Cooperatively

In this matter your actions speak before your words. Words hurt but actions speak louder, to express your boundaries without causing more hurt or bruised feeling you have to have a respectful approach. To do this you have to interact with them in a mutual way and not in an insincere way. It is important to address them in a manner you would also like to be spoken to.

“Treat people in the same way that you want them to treat you” (Luke 6:31 CEB)

Don’t be disingenuous.

In short don’t be a hypocrite. When you have communicated your boundaries, you also have to exhibit your boundaries onto others. It is easy to lose respect and trust from a loved one by doing the same thing you told them you disliked.

Be Accommodating

It is essential to remember that we are all human and we feel emotions. It is significant to understand that not everyone will agree with your methods when it comes to creating comfort and ease for yourself.

Embrace and listen to the other person and their opinions and feelings towards your boundaries. Nonetheless remember at the end of the day your mental health comes first and despite negative opinions, you’re are doing it for you.

The feeling you get after you express how you feel is unmatched, because you will feel heard even if it was a difficult process.