Nouva Daze

There were times when I used alone time as an escape, not a vacation. I used to confuse solitude with emptiness and silence with sadness. I’ve come to learn there’s a significant difference between being alone and being lonely. The best relationship I’ve ever invested my time in is the one with myself. Here’s how I fell in love with my own company.

How I Made Solitude Feel Like Self-Care

I reclaimed My Mornings

Waking up earlier before I have to, changed my mornings. Even if it’s just 10 minutes before, it makes a difference. Instead of diving straight into my phone and getting ready for work on the weekdays. I take some time in the morning just for me. Making a coffee or tea in the morning, praying, and enjoying the quiet morning.

Setting Boundaries with Distractions

During the quiet times at home I would always reach for my phone. I had to start setting boundaries with myself. I took advantage of a bad habit to help me be more present. I stopped using movies and shows as background noise while scrolling on my phone. This enabled me to enjoy the simple things, like reading without the need for distraction.

I treated alone Time like a Date

Sometimes, quiet can be daunting it can invite overthinking and bad reflection. Take control of your quiet time and do the things you enjoy. If you find yourself bored at home, step outside. Dress up nice and go on a solo date. It doesn’t have to be extra, it can be a trip to the bookstore, brunch or just a walk. Don’t wait for someone to show up to enjoy your time.

Enjoy Your Own Reflection

Stop criticizing your body when you look at yourself. Practice gratitude not judgment for your body and what it holds. Do not focus only on the things you dislike about your body. Each time you go up to the mirror, tell yourself one thing you like about yourself. Even if it feels awkward. Something as simple as placing motivating quotes in your home can help. Put them where there’s mirrors. This can boost your mood each time a bad thought crosses your mind.

Falling in love with yourself is a journey not a race. It takes time and learning, give yourself grace when it comes to growing and understanding what you enjoy.