Nouva Daze

This has been a recurring theme in my life lately. Many of us struggle to find the middle ground with our emotions. We experience life only through the extreme highs and lows. It is difficult for us to find that soft and steady place in the middle of our emotions.

Ecclesiastes 7:14 (NIV)
“When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider this: God has made the one as well as the other. Therefore, no one can discover anything about their future.”

Why We Only Focus on the “Bad”

When we talk about emotional balance we often focus on managing sadness, stress, anxiety and anger. So we build toolkits to stabilize, ground and calm ourselves down when things get heavy. But what about the other side of he spectrum?

What happens when our good emotions are left unchecked?

We often associate balancing our emotions with fixing what feels wrong. We focus on so many ways to tackle the negative emotions. But what happens when our good emotions are left unchecked?

When left unchecked, our good emotions can also entertain bad habits which can carry us into overwhelming emotions.
– Joy can lead into impulsiveness,
– Excitement can blur judgment,
– Confidence can tip into cockiness.
Two truths can coexist. Sadness can cloud clarity but happiness left unchecked can lead to habits that don’t serve us.

In life, balance must include both the good and the bad. Otherwise, we risk getting trapped in cycles of highs and lows; always chasing the good and always fighting the bad. Never learning what it feels like to stand steady in the middle.

Ways to Balance The Highs

• Pause Before Taking Action: Happiness and joy can inspire decisions that feel right in the moment. Pause. Wait for stillness to think about the decisions you make before moving forward.
• Notice Your Energy Peaks: Good emotions can lead to bursts of energy. Learn your patterns and know when to step back before you burn out and crash.
• Celebrate Without Attachment: Enjoy your highs without attaching your worth to them. Just like how you are not only your saddest, you are not only your happiest moments.

We should learn to soothe our storms and ground our sunshine. After all too much sun can cause harm and so can too much rain. The real middle ground is learning that emotional balance is about holding both emotions with grace. It’s not about chasing the good or the bad. Learn to hold both with grace.